Six steps to conquer your life!

Life is just like an array of cuisines; full of flavors – sometimes spicy, sour and sometimes sweet as well. And to relish every flavor, we let a dish simmer for hours on a low flame and sometimes put it for overnight refrigeration as well. And just like any cuisine, our life is also filled with different experiences (read flavors). Thus, embracing every experience - both good and bad - that life puts us through is equally important to bring out the best of us; be it lessons learned from our mistakes or aiming to strive for more after tasting success. 

There are days in our life when we feel cold and blue, while on others, we just shine like the Sun. If simply put, life gives us both good as well as bad experiences. But, many of us struggle with negative life experiences, mostly. We are engrossed in disempowering feeling, that life throws at us, so much that we fail to appreciate all the good things we are bestowed with. To list a few struggles of life that most of us go through are: issues in a relationship, loss in business, disturbed work-life balance, being agitated all the time with our subordinates/colleagues or family, and much more. 

It’s normal to get trapped in these disturbing events and the problems they come with. But worry not, in this blog you will see how you can use six easy steps to break the pattern caused by above-cited problems to lead a happy and productive life.

Step 1 – Act, don’t sulk:

Instead of worrying about something which is bothering you, find ways that you can do to get yourself out of it. For example, instead of cribbing about gaining weight  - without doing anything about it, get yourself signed up at any fitness club or maybe start off with a morning or an evening walk. Or while you are stuck at home because of COVID-19 scare, hitting some home-workout moves will be the best thing to do.

Step 2 – Take control:

Start analyzing the problem of your life from a profit or loss point of view. Identify the negative impact that this problem will have on your life if you don’t address it timely. On the other hand, try to visualize all the good things that are waiting for you once you overcome your problem. For example, doing nothing about your misbehavior with your colleagues and family will not only push you in isolation but will also make you lose all professional and social support that is necessary for survival. On the other hand, changing yourself to be more cordial with your subordinates and family will not only make you a popular leader or the most loved member of the family but will also take you a long way both on professional as well as personal grounds.

Step 3 - Break the monotony of thoughts:

Losing yourself in an endless chain of worrying is very exhaustive. So, whenever you find yourself falling in the deep pits of fear and worry, just divert your mind immediately. Get up and take a walk or listen to your favorite song. For example: If you are facing issues in a relationship, just go out and hang out with your friends instead of worrying about a relationship that’s disturbing your mental peace. Once you come back from the outing, you will have a clear idea about how to deal with that issue.

Step 4 - Do the right thing instead: 

Sulking under the pressure of worries will not fetch you anything. Instead, choosing the best alternative – right at the moment - to fight that problem should be our motive.  For example, being depressed about your business loss will not help you recover it. But instead, putting in efforts to make a new and improved business plan will surely serve the purpose.

Step 5 - Fake it till you make it: 

Reinforcing yourself - consciously - in the process of doing the best alternative thing every time worry starts taking over you will transform you. This will not only break the chain of disturbing behavioral patterns in your life but will also empower you to make good behavior a part of your reflex. For example, deliberately trying to think of a happy memory just in time when any sorrow takes over you will help you live a life filled with peace and gratitude. If you think you are not good at your job, starting your work every day with the thought that there is no one like you who can do this job as brilliantly as you, you will start unraveling wonders of your subconscious self.

Step 6: Worrying comes at a cost:

Understand the impact of your behavior on the people who matter to you. At the end of the day, everyone in your circle – be it family, friends, core group of employees and colleagues - should be benefitted because of your behavior. If by any chance you are a source of any issue in their life, you should do everything in your capacity to change that behavior. For example, if you are struggling to quit cigarettes or alcohol but are not able to, just focus on the fact that the cost of your toxic trait will have to be paid by your family. In the case of smoking, not only will they become passive smokers by living with you and develop health issues, but they may also lose you to a deadly disease that smoking comes with. 

If you practice these six steps to fight any issue in your life, you will know winning those problems is just the right choice away.

Author: Shuja Tasleem

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